I had an encounter with this M.Y. individual about a year ago on social media. At first nothing was amiss; I respected her work in SoManyOfUs, though I can't say I agree 100% with all goals/tactics. Then they tried to dictate how to talk about things and got more than a bit miffed they weren't being treated as an authority or elder. Like, sorry, not sorry, this is the Internet--your voice has no more weight than another rando. It rapidly went downhill from there into literal White Woman Karen behavior. I disengaged, because who needs that.
I had assumed they were what they said they were but trauma had made it hard to work with people they didn't know. I would never have guessed they had misrepresented multiple aspects of themselves or their "credentials". But it does explain some inconsistencies and their inability to disagree without apparently melting down.
You should be cautious however of the Reddit sub you've linked this substack to. The mods of that sub are pretty dodgy and there's at least one report of an attempt to doxx someone on Reddit(which is against TOU). They seem to be interacting with you reasonably atm, but be careful and don't message/share any IRL information.
Your willingness to listen to me is deeply appreciated.
Yayanos has been on the periphery of far more famous people than she since the days of the Warren Ellis forum. She's a narcissist, in my opinion, and that relationship with Warren conflated her sense of importance. She has been trying to get back that perceived status ever since. In my opinion. She attacks anyone she feels thwarts that ambition.
SoManyofUs validated everything, questioned nothing, and enabled madness. We all know there are people in there who were full of shit and there for attention and drama. No one was allowed to doubt because some women who were badly treated meant all women who claimed they were badly treated must be telling the truth. They had to be raised up no matter what. Yayanos demanded it.
She hated Amanda Palmer intensely (I believe they are two of a kind,) and she told many people that Gaiman was being abused and controlled by her. Neil Gaiman was someone "she would bother with", but Amanda was irredeemable.
I believe that she was trying to get him to be part of her accountability group, because she wanted power over him and she thought the Gaiman brand would work for their movement.
I have been confused for a long time about how, after she was done PM'ing with Colleen Doran, Yayanos wrote that she was leaving activism and going back to art. I have a screen shot of that exchange. She obviously did not do that. But Yayanos lies about so many things, I just don't know for sure. Maybe she meant it at the time.
I do think, when Gaiman didn't get folded in to Yayanos's plans, she went scorched Earth on him and everyone around him.
I appreciate your warnings. I've taken care to protect my identity because I know if who I am becomes known, people will go after my family and my job. Maybe I'm being too paranoid, but I truly fear for my life.
I want to reiterate that I make no claims to knowledge about Gaiman's behavior. In retrospect, while I think Warren Ellis is a philandering dick, I'm not sure his punishment fit this "crime". I'll be unpacking this for a long time.
It is possible Substack is shadowbanning comments on this post. Several people told me they see a comment count but can't read any posts when they click on them. I will copy and paste them into a separate post.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
I had an encounter with this M.Y. individual about a year ago on social media. At first nothing was amiss; I respected her work in SoManyOfUs, though I can't say I agree 100% with all goals/tactics. Then they tried to dictate how to talk about things and got more than a bit miffed they weren't being treated as an authority or elder. Like, sorry, not sorry, this is the Internet--your voice has no more weight than another rando. It rapidly went downhill from there into literal White Woman Karen behavior. I disengaged, because who needs that.
I had assumed they were what they said they were but trauma had made it hard to work with people they didn't know. I would never have guessed they had misrepresented multiple aspects of themselves or their "credentials". But it does explain some inconsistencies and their inability to disagree without apparently melting down.
You should be cautious however of the Reddit sub you've linked this substack to. The mods of that sub are pretty dodgy and there's at least one report of an attempt to doxx someone on Reddit(which is against TOU). They seem to be interacting with you reasonably atm, but be careful and don't message/share any IRL information.
Your willingness to listen to me is deeply appreciated.
Yayanos has been on the periphery of far more famous people than she since the days of the Warren Ellis forum. She's a narcissist, in my opinion, and that relationship with Warren conflated her sense of importance. She has been trying to get back that perceived status ever since. In my opinion. She attacks anyone she feels thwarts that ambition.
SoManyofUs validated everything, questioned nothing, and enabled madness. We all know there are people in there who were full of shit and there for attention and drama. No one was allowed to doubt because some women who were badly treated meant all women who claimed they were badly treated must be telling the truth. They had to be raised up no matter what. Yayanos demanded it.
She hated Amanda Palmer intensely (I believe they are two of a kind,) and she told many people that Gaiman was being abused and controlled by her. Neil Gaiman was someone "she would bother with", but Amanda was irredeemable.
I believe that she was trying to get him to be part of her accountability group, because she wanted power over him and she thought the Gaiman brand would work for their movement.
I have been confused for a long time about how, after she was done PM'ing with Colleen Doran, Yayanos wrote that she was leaving activism and going back to art. I have a screen shot of that exchange. She obviously did not do that. But Yayanos lies about so many things, I just don't know for sure. Maybe she meant it at the time.
I do think, when Gaiman didn't get folded in to Yayanos's plans, she went scorched Earth on him and everyone around him.
I appreciate your warnings. I've taken care to protect my identity because I know if who I am becomes known, people will go after my family and my job. Maybe I'm being too paranoid, but I truly fear for my life.
I want to reiterate that I make no claims to knowledge about Gaiman's behavior. In retrospect, while I think Warren Ellis is a philandering dick, I'm not sure his punishment fit this "crime". I'll be unpacking this for a long time.
It is possible Substack is shadowbanning comments on this post. Several people told me they see a comment count but can't read any posts when they click on them. I will copy and paste them into a separate post.